According to the United Nations statistics, there are an estimated one billion married couples in the world as of 2021. One billion. Keep that in mind!
The latest official figures from the National Bureau of Statistics in Nigeria, show that, just 0.2 per cent of men and 0.3 per cent of women, have legally divorced and well under 1 per cent of couples admit to being separated.
Other unofficial sources say, the crude divorce rate among married persons in Nigeria is 13.4, separation 16.1 and marital dissolution 29.5 per 1000. This still suggests that only about 3 per cent of marriages in Nigeria are dissolved through divorce or separation.
Even in the US, where people think that divorce is so common, it can be pulled out from a drawer, statistics show otherwise. According to Forbes Advisor, in 2000, a total of 944,000 divorces and annulments occurred. In 2021, contrary to propaganda against marriages, the divorce rate reduced from 4.00 per cent to 2.5 per cent. A total of 689,308 divorces occurred across 45 U.S. states, and 1,985,072 marriages occurred. Far more people got married over the course of each year than got divorced.
Additionally, the Forbes Advisor findings show that:
- Many who divorce don’t give up on the institution of marriage, because it is a beautiful thing to stay married. A total of 64 per cent of men, and 52 per cent of women, get married again after their marriage has ended.
- One of the consequences of divorce is an increased risk of early death. Mortality rate is 1,363 per 100,000 for divorcees compared with 779 per 100,000 for couples that stay married.
- Couples who have friends who divorce, have a 75 per cent increase in the risk of their own marriage ending.
So when those who derive joy from hearing that a few marriages are breaking up come up and say, more marriages are crumbling, ask them where they are drawing their conclusions from. The truth is that, out of the estimated one billion married couples in the world, only a minute three per cent of that figure has divorced and many more are getting married daily.
When a few impatient noisy lot, who never really prepared to get married always run to social media to celebrate untieing their nuptials, always bear in mind that there are millions of happy marriages all over the place for us to draw strength from. The noisy “run-aways” and their supporters and the wannabes, are trying so hard to demonize the institution of marriage and create the impression that it is impossible essentially because they couldn’t stay. Little wonder, those who collect three marriage certificates, now run back after a few months to their parents who never got any certificate but have lived together for decades.
When they tell you to be scared of marriage, remind them that it is not the spouse that made their marriage miserable that you will be getting married to. You will enjoy your own marriage. Also understand that there is a global movement against marriage and family life as we have always known it. There is a group of very powerful globalists working exceedingly hard to undermine and destroy marriage and family life and we need to be on our guards. And remind yourself too that, marriage is not a tea party, but it is a task that can be achieved and enjoyed.
This article is written with due apologies, respect and understanding to those who have suffered genuine injustice in marriage, and there are quite a lot of them. I sincerely feel the pain in your journey and share in whatever you may have gone through or still going through.
Yours sincerely,
Citizen Agba Jalingo.
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